How To Stay Positive When It Feels Like You Can't
Life is filled with many ups and downs. It has great moments but it also comes with negative ones. One thing that is nice and comforting to know is that everyone goes through life this way. We may go through situations where it feels great but negative events happen and it could be hard to maintain being positive. How you feel is validated and you can do something about it. You can choose to feel better and take control of the things you do have control of. But it’s up to you to make that decision.
These life events that you are currently facing is not going to last forever. It may feel like it does, but life is happening for a reason. We are supposed to learn a lesson from it so then we can have better things to look forward to when they do come. With that being said, let’s get into the steps and tips on how to stay positive when it feels like you can’t and the world feels like it’s crumbling around you.
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Now, let’s get into how to stay positive when it feels like everything is going wrong and you feel like you can’t stay positive.
Will this matter in five years from now?
Take a step back and look into the future. Sometimes when we are going through negative situations, we think about the moment instead of looking into the future. Look forward in a year and five years from now. Will this matter? Will this truly affect you in five years from now? Most of the time it won’t. If it does, it probably won’t feel as huge as an impact as it feels right in this moment.
2. Practice self care
You should never neglect yourself, especially in this time. Whether it is eating healthier, to working out to even placing boundaries on people and situations, do something that benefits and feels good for yourself. You’ll see a difference in how you feel when you put yourself first and foremost. Do something that makes you happier, be selfish.
3. Realize that you are not alone
Reach out to someone whom you trust. Whether it is someone like a family member, friend, or even a stranger. Sharing how you feel with someone, you will soon realize you are not alone. There are billions of people on this earth, and why’d you think someone can’t relate? Trust that there is someone out there that can understand what you are going through. Look for groups or supports online that relates to your situations. Reach out to someone and you will see that you are not alone in this.
4. Listen to podcasts or inspirational speakers
There are so many great videos and podcasts out there that are helpful for many situations. I usually love to listen to videos on YouTube that are relevant to my situations from heartbreak, grief, losing someone or to getting fired etc. There are many resources out there that can help you. I love listening to Ted Talks and even Infinite Waters Diving Deep as there are great videos that pertains to learning to new ideas/concepts to situations and spiritual talks that helps me feel so much better. There are so many out there! Go explore.
5. Stay off of social media
This one is even hard for me sometimes just because I have a blog and work to maintain and part of that work is checking between email, SweetSimplyJenny, Pinterest, Instagram and all other social media platforms. However, being attached to the screen and to social media has proven time and time again that excessively checking is not healthy for us. There should be a balance. Even then try to place a limit on yourself and track how you feel when you are on it. One way to track that is to place a timer to an hour or less while you are on social media. Once the timer goes off, check in with yourself and see how you are feeling. Are you feeling happy? Bad? Are you feeling bad about yourself? Do you feel like you are comparing yourself to others? You should continue to check in with yourself daily and start making changes to your social media consumption.
6. Be grateful
Write down everything that you are grateful for. Thinking about what you are grateful for will help you change the way you look at things in life. Reminding yourself of what you have in life will help you become more positive and happier and not focus on the things you don’t have. So go ahead, what are you grateful for?
7. Focus on what you can control
There are things we cannot control. Let it go and focus on things you can control. The questions you should be asking yourself is, can I control this? If I can’t, what can I control? Then proceed to make decisions that you do have power over.
8. Visualize and train yourself
Look into getting your thoughts organized and work on taking one step at a time. Reflect on your thinking and visualize yourself becoming happier. Start training your mind to look into the positive things rather than the negative stuff happening. Your brain is far more capable than what you know. You can change the way you look at things when you change the way you think.