5 Healing Ways To Move On From A Break Up
Break ups. What a painful experience. It feels as if we are dying from the inside. Many of us go through this life falling in love and falling out from it. This is called life. As a person who has went through two major heartaches and have survived, I can say that it wasn’t easy. It’s never easy. However, there are ways to make it feel less painful.
There are so many ideas and plans that we had made with that person. Now we are facing a reality that what we had planned is no longer going to happen. We also are coming to the reality that maybe we feel rejected because it wasn’t our decision to end things. Or maybe it was because we realized it was better for us to end things. No matter who decided it, it still isn’t an easy thing. Heartbreak feels painful, especially for those who are highly sensitive. Those who are highly sensitive can feel their hearts shattering.
Well I want to be able to tell you, no it’s not easy but yes there are ways to help move forward. Usually there are articles that describes how to move on so quickly from a heartache and I must say that isn’t healthy. If healing doesn’t occur, there will be wounds afterwards that will affect your future self. This can continue a repeated cycle and it won’t help you in the long run. It won’t help you truly feel at peace. So if you want to learn the five healing ways to move on from a break up, continue reading.
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Let’s get into the 5 healing ways to move from a break up.
Accept and feel the emotions
The first thing is to truly understand and feel those emotions. As a person who has went through a breakup and just suppressed the emotions, it later came back to bite me in the ass. It is not healthy at all to suppress any negative feelings. I thought being unhappy, devastated, sad, and heartbroken was something I should hide. Therefore I hid those feelings and never really let them come out. These emotions came back around and they turned into resentment, anger and even anxiety. The feelings that I tried to cover up came back with an even stronger negative impact towards my spirit, behavior and happiness. I had to learn step by step to understand what I am going through and let it come out in a healthy way. First understand and identify your emotions, then accept them. Feel them and have time to go through them until you let them go.
2. Write and talk it out
These two come in handy and are tied with the first one. After we accept and feel the emotions, two ways that can help is writing it out and talking it out. Actually seeing and hearing what we are going through can also help us heal from the pain. Many of us including myself have difficulty in voicing how we feel. This is where journaling can help. Writing out what we feel can help guide us to discovering our emotions and also help make a decision. There is something in visually seeing what you’re writing from the inside. I write in my journal every time I am going through something difficult especially relationships. Sometimes writing it out helped me make a decision as well. On the other side of it, talking out your feelings can be also helpful. Whether it is talking to a professional or even a friend, having feelings stay stuck inside you will only let it turn into a painful outcome. Find someone you can trust and talk it out.
3. Spend time with friends and loved ones
It’s not about the quantity of people you spend time with, it’s the quality. It is easy to stay in bed and cry and watch a whole season of Friends. However, that isn’t going to truly help you heal and move on if you are doing that on a daily occurrence. Spend time with quality loving people who fill you up with positive and meaning. When you are going through difficult times, it’s easy (especially for me) to shut people out. However, friends and loved ones are there to support you and make life a bit easier. Choose to spend time with people who can understand you but also can help you move on. You can grieve after a relationship but there should be time to also move on from it. True friends want you to be happy and if you spend time with people who constantly encourage you to speak about your breakup (as in months and months and months) they aren’t helping you to move on. Chose to spend time with quality friends and loved ones.
4. Focus on healing, rebuild and moving forward
In the beginning of a heartache, it’s easy to focus on the person who we were with and what pain they’ve caused us. However, that won’t help us move forward. What we need to focus on is the emotions we are experiencing and heal from it. Once we heal our wounds we can then focus on how to rebuild our self confidence and esteem. We have to go through each step before jumping to the conclusion. In the end, once we have healed our wounds and rebuild ourselves we can then move forward.
5. Take the love you had for them and pour it back into you
Remember all the love you have given away so freely? Well take that love and pour it back into you. You are the first person who deserves that kind love, that unconditional love. This is the time to focus on things you love to do. Where do you want to visit and travel to? What do you enjoy doing that your ex-partner hated? What is something you want to try for the first time? This is the time to go explore your interests and date yourself. This is the best part. You can discover what you are meant to do and be. Rediscovering your goals and values is something amazing and should be not only cherished but prioritized.